Showing posts with label suffering. Show all posts
Showing posts with label suffering. Show all posts

Tuesday, April 27, 2021

Wise Willy Shocked by Bullying


Hi Friends! (French below)

I've been helping out Wise Willy for about a week now, and I feel like I have a third child! I LOVE assisting him with his social media accounts and teaching him how to do various things on the computer, but I had NO IDEA he would create such a stir! I really have to keep a close eye on this little dude! One day he can bring up topics that are fun, light and inspirational, and the next, he can dive into really deep, existential subjects.

Like yesterday, he wrote about "the Black Fog" as a result of witnessing bullying at his playground. What he saw really shook him to his core. He was a little surprised when I told him that unfortunately, bullying doesn't stop when people grow up. As long as people continue to deny and project their pain and discomfort onto others, bullying will continue. Anyway, you can read what Wise Willy wrote below. I told him I would feature some of this stuff on my blog once in a while. You should have seen the excitement on his little face!

Wishing you a great couple of weeks!
Lise Villeneuve
www.lisevilleneuve.com

The Black Fog

By Wise Willy

Unbeknownst to her, Greta became a host for the Black Fog. It was thick and sticky, heavy and uncomfortable. The Black Fog carried imprints of the faces of all the people who had hurt her. They were too painful to remember consciously, but they still lived and breathed in this dark muck. Greta had been carrying them inside her ever since she was just a helpless, innocent babe in arms. The angry faces yelled how worthless and unlovable she was. She couldn’t hear their words, but she could still feel them as a deep shame and a hopeless unworthiness. As Greta got older, the shame morphed into sadness, then anger, then rage.

All she ever wanted was simply what everybody else wanted - to feel good, peaceful and happy. To be loved. But the Black Fog was too dense, too sticky to allow any bright, lighthearted, joyful feelings to survive in such an inhospitable inner-landscape. All Greta knew was pain. And so, unable to free herself from the Black Fog that kept her chained up to misery, she used the only method she knew to raise herself up: she put others down.

The Black Fog typically affected its hosts in two ways. One - the dark feelings festered into self-hatred and depression, or two - they turned their host into a cruel, aggressive bully. If only someone had shown Greta how to free herself from the Black Fog. If only she knew that beneath this pulsating, viscous layer of past pain, her beauty and innocence were still intact and shining like the sun. Like many, Greta made the mistake of believing she WAS the Black Fog instead of seeing she had become its unfortunate host.

The Black Fog was a hungry beast. It needed to feed daily on the energy of vulnerable, unsuspecting beings. All Greta had to do was open her mouth and the Black Fog was instantly unleashed onto others. It entered their bodies, caused pain, and perpetuated the cycle like a ruthless parasite. Just a few mean words from Greta gave the Black Fog the power to quickly spread from one child to another at the playground, then from child to sibling, sibling to parent, and neighbour to neighbour, until the entire community was infected.

If only Greta knew how powerful her words and actions were. If only she could experience the beautifully uplifting domino effect of a KIND word! But she was drowning in the Black Fog, drowning in her pain, because nobody ever taught her how to free herself from this inebriating darkness. Nevertheless, there was hope! Greta’s beautiful, innocent and loving heart was still unscathed. It knew that someday, she would have the knowledge and the courage to free it from the Black Fog.

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We ALL carry some of that Black Fog inside us. It is our responsibility to OWN our pain and to allow ourselves to fully FEEL IT - as opposed to escaping it, resisting it, ignoring it or projecting it onto others. The Black Fog only goes away after we have the courage to face and feel our discomfort. It may not feel great in the moment, but as this heavy fog is gradually released from our bodies, the world truly starts to look and feel like a bright new planet!
We can do this! We can collectively stop feeding the Black Fog!
Love,

Wise Willy


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Salut les amis!
J'aide Wise Willy depuis environ une semaine maintenant, et j'ai l'impression d'avoir un troisième enfant! J'ADORE l'aider avec ses comptes de médias sociaux et lui apprendre à faire diverses choses sur l'ordinateur, mais je n'avais AUCUNE IDÉE qu'il créerait un tel émoi! Je dois vraiment garder un œil sur ce petit mec! Un jour, il peut aborder des sujets amusants, légers et inspirants, et le lendemain, il peut plonger dans des sujets existentiels vraiment profonds.
Comme hier, il a écrit un texte intitulé "le brouillard noir" après avoir été témoin d'intimidation sur son terrain de jeu. Ce qu'il a vu l'a vraiment secoué. Il a été un peu surpris quand je lui ai dit que malheureusement, l'intimidation ne s'arrête pas lorsque les gens grandissent. Tant que les gens continueront de nier et de projeter leur douleur et leur inconfort sur les autres, l'intimidation continuera. Quoi qu'il en soit, vous pouvez lire ce que Wise Willy a écrit ci-dessous. Je lui ai dit que je présenterais certaines de ces choses sur mon blogue de temps en temps. Vous auriez dû voir l'enthousiasme sur son petit visage!
Je vous souhaite une belle semaine! Lise Villeneuve www.lisevilleneuve.com

Le brouillard noir (The Black Fog)

Par Wise Willy

À son insu, Greta est devenue l'hôte du Brouillard Noir. Il était épais et collant, lourd et inconfortable. Le Brouillard Noir portait les empreintes des visages de toutes les personnes qui l'avaient blessée. Ces empreintes étaient trop douloureuses pour qu'elle s'en souvienne consciemment, mais les visages de son passé vivaient et respiraient toujours dans cette boue sombre. Greta les portait en elle depuis qu'elle n'était qu'une fillette. Des expressions colériques lui criaient à quel point elle était sans valeur et peu aimable. Elle ne pouvait point entendre leurs paroles, mais elle pouvait les ressentir sous forme d'une honte profonde et une indignité troublante. Au fur et à mesure que Greta vieillissait, la honte se transformait. D'abord, en tristesse, puis en colère, puis en rage.

Tout ce qu'elle avait toujours voulu était simplement ce que tout le monde espérait - se sentir bien, paisible et heureux. Se sentir aimé, quoi. Mais le Brouillard Noir était trop dense, trop collant pour permettre à des sentiments lumineux, légers et joyeux de survivre dans un paysage intérieur aussi inhospitalier. Tout ce que Greta connaissait, c'était la douleur. Et donc, incapable de se libérer du Brouillard Noir qui la tenait enchaînée à sa misère, elle utilisait la seule méthode qu'elle connaissait pour se relever: elle rabaissait les autres.

Le Brouillard Noir affectait généralement ses hôtes de deux manières. La première - les sentiments sombres se transformaient en haine de soi et en dépression, ou la deuxième - ils transformaient leur hôte en tyran cruel et agressif. Si seulement quelqu'un avait montré à Greta comment se libérer du Brouillard Noir. Si seulement elle savait que sous cette couche visqueuse de douleur passée, sa beauté et son innocence étaient toujours intactes et brillaient comme un soleil. Comme beaucoup, Greta avait commis l'erreur de croire qu'elle ÉTAIT le Brouillard Noir au lieu de comprendre qu'elle était devenue son hôte.

Le Brouillard Noir était une bête sauvage affamée qui avait besoin de se nourrir quotidiennement de l'énergie d'êtres vulnérables et sans méfiance. Tout ce que Greta avait à faire était d'ouvrir sa bouche et le Brouillard Noir se déchaînait instantanément sur les autres. Il s'infiltrait dans leur corps, causait de la douleur et perpétuait le cycle vicieux comme un parasite impitoyable. Quelques mots méchants de Greta donnaient au Brouillard Noir le pouvoir de se propager rapidement d'un enfant à un autre dans la cour de récréation, puis d'un enfant à ses parents, d'un voisin à l'autre, jusqu'à ce que toute la communauté soit infectée.

Si seulement Greta savait à quel point ses paroles et ses actions étaient puissantes! Si seulement elle pouvait ressentir l'effet domino édifiant de paroles AIMABLES! Mais elle se noyait dans le Brouillard Noir, se noyait dans sa douleur, car personne ne lui avait jamais appris à se libérer de cette obscurité enivrante. Néanmoins, il y avait de l'espoir! Le cœur innocent et aimant de Greta était toujours indemne. Son coeur savait qu'un jour, Greta trouverait la sagesse et le courage de le libérer du Brouillard Noir.

---------------------------------------------- Nous portons TOUS un peu de ce Brouillard Noir en nous, n'est-ce pas? C'est notre responsabilité de s'approprier notre douleur et d'avoir le courage de la ressentir pleinement - plutôt que d'y échapper, d'y résister, de l'ignorer ou de la projeter sur les autres. Le Brouillard Noir ne disparaît qu'après l'avoir affronté directement en ressentant pleinement notre inconfort. Cela peut être temporairement désagréable, mais à mesure que cet épais brouillard est progressivement libéré de notre corps, TOUT se transforme! Le monde qu'on perçoit commence à ressembler à une nouvelle planète brillante et remplie d'espoir!
Nous sommes capables les amis! Nous pouvons collectivement arrêter de nourrir le Brouillard Noir!
Avec Amour, Wise Willy Mon Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wisewilly007

Saturday, February 11, 2017

Are We Being Honest With Ourselves?



Why is this happening to me again?

Did you ever notice that we re-experience painful scenarios over and over again until we finally learn what we need to change in our life? The people, situations and places may change, but we all have recurring issues that keep recreating themselves until we learn our lessons. Life is designed this way to facilitate our evolution.

No, that's not me...

For some, the issues revolve around dysfunctional relationships. For others, it's more about self-worth, or control. Whatever the theme is, we will continue to experience uncomfortable, negative emotions until we get right down to the root of the problem. Denial and suppression of these negative feelings will only work for a short time, since repressed energies get stored in our emotional body and can create illness. We can run, but we can't hide!

I feel great!

It's time to be honest with ourselves. What is causing us the greatest sadness, anger, anxiety, fear, frustration or apathy in our life right now? Do we want to keep running away from these negative feelings, or do we want to finally free ourselves from them? Yes, it may be terrifying to face our shadow -our dark side- but it's the only way to remove the phenomenal power it has over us.

Emotional energy drain

Whether we realise it or not, it takes incredible amounts of energy to keep these shameful aspects hidden from our awareness. Instead of wasting our energy trying to deny our wounds, we could release this energy and use it to manifest a fulfilling, empowered life. To be free from the weight of our repressed negative emotions, we first have to accept them, reintegrate them and then release them.

Wound? What wound?

The good news is that life gives us so many opportunities to do this. Each time we feel annoyed, frustrated, angry, fearful, sad or just plain numb, it's because something on the outside has touched our wound on the inside. If we didn't have a wound in the first place, then we wouldn't feel so vulnerable. We wouldn't use projection to blame others for how we are feeling inside. At the core of this wound is a deep fear that we are powerless, that we are too insignificant to make a real difference in this world. Is this true?

Our thoughts create our reality...

What do you  think would happen to the world if everybody started to accept, reintegrate and release their own negative emotions in appropriate ways? If we were comfortable with our own "dark side", we would stop blaming others for theirs. We could help each other to nurture our more positive qualities by tipping the scale from global fear and competition to universal love, compassion, forgiveness and cooperation. Do you think our leaders could get away with some of the things we are seeing today if the majority of humans resonated at the higher frequency of Love? No!

Who am I?

When we respond to events with fear and negativity, unfortunately, we are reinforcing and supporting the old paradigm of separation. It helps to ask this question: who am I? Am I merely a separate, isolated, physical being, or a deeply connected, eternal, spiritual being? When we experience fear, it's usually from the perspective of the ego-self.

The greatest awakener = suffering

The time has come for us to face our individual and collective shadows. We can all see that things aren't right on the planet. We are all well-aware of the collective suffering that seems to be increasing. That's because suffering is the greatest awakener. If we don't learn our lessons and evolve, life teaches us the hard way. Is this the route we are collectively choosing? Unfortunately, it seems like it.

What can I do?

When we each have the courage to face our individual shadow, this reduces our collective shadow, and it reconnects us to the most powerful forces on earth: Love, compassion, forgiveness and cooperation. These are necessary to ensure our survival.We cannot truly be light workers unless we reintegrate, love and forgive our own darkness.

Thanks for reading,

Much Love,

Lise Villeneuve
www.lisevilleneuve.com




Saturday, October 1, 2016

My Darkest Time Revealed in a Magazine!

I never would have thought in a million years that one day, I'd be sharing what turned out to be the darkest period in my life with the world - in a magazine recently published in India! Life is funny that way, and I don't regret a second of it!

Click on the link below to read the article. Special thanks to Suzy Singh.


Love,

Lise Villeneuve
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Sunday, February 16, 2014

A Big Pain In The...

...HEART! A Big Pain In The Heart! 

As much as this can be an uncomfortable subject because it forces us to face our deepest fears, I would like to talk about the profound pain we are all carrying. Very few of us even acknowledge that suffering exists in our hearts, but it's there, holding us down in many different ways. Releasing our pain is the key to finding our freedom.

Why don't we realize we are suffering? Mainly because we've never experienced what it feels like not to suffer. Do fish realize they are surrounded by water? It seems obvious to us, but not to them, because they've never been out of water (the lucky ones, at least!). So day after day, we swim in our ocean of psychological and emotional pain thinking this is normal. Our psyches have become hyper-sensitive in this modern world. We are filled with insecurity, anxiety, self-doubt, self-consciousness. It doesn't have to be this way.

The mind is a powerful  tool that wants to help us. It tries to fix us inside -to reduce our fears- by suggesting we do this or that, say this or that, often in a neurotic kind of way!The problem with the mind is that it thinks it can find the solution to our problems by changing our external circumstances. A better job, a different girlfriend, a better body perhaps? However, our root problem is internal: our fears make us feel incomplete, inadequate. The truth is, there is nothing we can change on the outside to fix this permanently. So what can we do, then?

The first thing to do is to fire our minds! Ignore the neurotic chatter box! Don't fight it, just refuse to participate in it. Be quiet inside and watch what your mind is telling you. Be the silent witness and stop deriving a sense of identity from your mind. You are not your thoughts. You are the awareness behind them.

Great, so you quieted the mind, but what about the pain? It's still there. You have been storing pockets of pain in your heart chakra since childhood (Samskara). Whatever you have resisted in the past, you still carry today. Whenever you close your heart to protect yourself from more pain, you actually trap that pain inside:

"Remember, if you close around something, you will be psychologically sensitive about that subject for the rest of your life. Because you stored it inside of you, you will be afraid that it will happen again." -Michael A. Singer, The Untethered Soul

The key to spiritual freedom is learning to become comfortable with pain passing through us. If we are able to see the pain as nothing more than transient energy that just needs to make its way through us to be released, our hearts can stay open and we won't accumulate more pain. When old, painful memories resurface, we get a second chance to open our hearts and release them once and for all. Some people experience a feeling of heat in the heart area when this happens.

So, the next time a form of pain comes your way, (and it will!) instead of fearing it, instead of trapping it inside by closing your heart, be brave enough to keep your heart open and just experience it passing through you. It will probably be uncomfortable, but in the long run, you will waste less time and energy avoiding or reacting to circumstances that trigger those sensitive pockets of pain you have been carrying for so long. You will be tearing down the bars of your internal prison one by one. The question is, how badly do you want this freedom?

Warmly,

Lise
www.lisevilleneuve.com
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